I’ve been sharing about the importance of relationships recently because it’s an essential part of the Free Mind training we teach. We’re inextricably interconnected with the world around us in a multitude of relationships. 

  • We have relationships with ourselves. Do we truly love ourselves or is there just a little bit of self hate? 
  • Do we love our partner and seek to meet the needs of the relationship or are we focused solely on our needs? 
  • Do we truly serve others through our work or are we in it for ourselves? What value do we really bring to others?
  • And what about the world we live in? Do we care for it, serve it, through our talents and efforts? 

In short, are we chasing the wrong career, the wrong dream, the wrong self? 

This short video of Jim Carrey talks about these very issues. Here are some thoughts from the video: 

  • You do what you can to be a winner. And then, at some point in your life, you have to say, “I don’t care what it looks like. I’m going to face the abyss, of not knowing if that’s going to be okay with everyone or not.”
  • You have to take a chance on being loved or hated. If you don’t risk that, then you’ll have to kill who you really are; your authenticity. 
  • So many of us choose our careers out of fear or practicality. Rather, ask, “How will I serve the world? What does it need that my talent can provide?” That’s all you need to figure out. 
  • With all this pondering, suddenly you wonder, who is it that’s thinking all these thoughts? There’s a part of you that witnesses your life. Shift to that part and you’re thrown into freedom.
  • Finally, the most important thing? The effect you have on others is the most valuable currency there is. 

This pandemic has caused me to slow down. No, it’s forced me to. And, I must say, I kind of like it. I’ve realized I’ve been too busy to find space for just being and enjoying each day. I’m not chasing the wrong career, dream, or self, but how I lived each day needed adjustment. Even in the right career, we can still strive to be at some future ideal, instead of where we are. That’s what I realized. I trust you’ll also find some value in Jim Carrey’s comments. I trust you’ll find value in our current crisis. 

This Post Has 7 Comments

  1. Joe Jackson

    Thanks for everything you do Arno! I love these, and I continue to work through the material you’ve written, even though I’m climbing much less than I used to. Life lessons you teach, and the life lessons I’ve learned directly on the rock, continue to shape who I am. So again, thank you.

    1. Arno

      Welcome Joe. I know I need constant reminders. Writing and teaching this material keeps it constantly in my awareness to practice. I’m glad it does that for you also. Be well and attentive. a

  2. Gordon Grant, Education Director, NC Outward Bound

    Very much appreciate these; read and share them. They are a service to many…

    1. Arno

      Continue to share Gordon. a

  3. Danie White

    I don’t always get to these posts in a timely manner, but when I do, I always feel the impact and poignancy of the lesson. I needed this one today, thank you!

    1. Arno

      Glad they help Danie. How have you been? Arno

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